Tuesday, March 14, 2017

Skin Care Know How

Keeping your skin clear, healthy, and protected has to start early in life.  If you are an adult with children and you don’t take care of your own skin, now is the time to begin.

Your skin is the largest organ in your body,  is essential to good health and hygiene and good habits should begin in childhood so they will continue throughout life.  If you encourage and model good cleansing behaviors for your children, you are giving them the gift of health.  Because childhood progresses  into the teen years when the body is changing rapidly, knowing which cleansers, toners, and moisturizers to use, how to apply sunscreen and develop good routines is something parents can promote.


Emotional health can be affected when a teen is faced with skin problems. Support and encouragement in good hygiene for the entire body can give your child confidence and a higher self-esteem.  Teens don’t automatically know how to care for their changing bodies and learning from other teens is not very effective, so parents should play an important role in guiding their children towards an early start in body care.  Both boys and girls need to understand how to maintain clean skin and hair, what products that are appropriate to use, and they should be aware of their own personal attributes such as dry or oily skin.

Socially, all children want to be around others who are clean, smell fresh, and are well kept physcially.  Parents want to give their child every tool required for success in life.  If children learn from an early age how to take care of themselves, they will have an easier time when they are teens and there is a natural tendency for an increase in skin care.  For some parents, there is a feeling of inadequacy in this area.  If that is the case then find classes for yourself or your child or teen that promote health and hygiene, help them discover products to use and learn other ways to get through the teenage years successfully.

Don’t think this is not important, because it is and for many reasons.  Healthy skin and healthy hygiene will reduce many barriers to any person’s daily life at school, work and play.  Give your child the advantage with knowledge, insight, and training for a step up toward finding success.


Tuesday, March 7, 2017

The Teenager Technology Talk

Both parents and kids have come to depend upon technology to function in daily life.  It is amazing in so many ways.  We can stay in touch with each other, communicate with photos and images and find information quickly.  There are, however, negative aspects that teens whose brains are yet to fully develop, must choose to avoid.  It is similar to a tight wire act for parents.

Balancing giving your teen independence but promoting healthy technology behaviors is tricky.  To be perfectly frank, balancing any issue with a teen is tricky and here’s why.  A study at the McLean Hospital in Belmont, Massachusetts, researchers studied a teen’s and adult’s ability to identify emotions using images.  They used M.R.I.’s to watch the parts of the brain that worked during these tests.  The part of the brain that reacted in adults was the frontal cortex often called the CEO of the brain.  The part of the brain that activated in teens was the amygdala, which is more instinctable and reflexive.  The teen brain reacted more often without thought.  No parent is surprised by this information.

What it does indicate is that teens have to be given more instruction in how they react to their environment.  With technology a mere flick of the thumb, an off the wall comment, or a slight push from peers can create an action with technology that creates a huge problem for the teen.  Teens are so focused on being part of the crowd, included, accepted, and doing what is cool that they tend to be impulsive to make those choices.  Sending an inappropriate image or text can result in unintended consequences, leave teens open to what they feel is an anonymous communication, and cross the line between legal and illegal actions unknowingly.

With that in mind here are some things parents should do and discuss with their teens that will support appropriate techy behavior and cell phone etiquette:

#1.  Do only those things you would like done to yourself.

#2.  Don’t text when angry.

#3.  Put your privacy before anything else.

#4.  Remember that whatever you put on line, stays on line.

#5.  Anything can go viral.

#6.  Don’t communicate anything you don’t want your parents to see because they will.

#7.  Don’t talk so loudly that others can hear your conversations.

#8.  Don’t allow phones in the bedroom when your teen should be sleeping

#9.  For every hour on line spend one hour off line.

#10. Don’t allow phones during meal times – talk to each other.



Tuesday, February 28, 2017

Five Must Have Manners For Kids

Kids need to embrace good manners.  If they don’t they will be less respected, will find social interactions limited, and put up walls toward success in life.  Here are five things your child must follow.

·        Use polite words

Words like please, yes thank you, no thank you, I’m sorry, may I, hello, good-bye, will be noticed in any interaction, any place, and with others of any age.  There is no substitute for use of polite words.  They should become so natural with your children that they use it without thinking.  For this to happen you have to both model the behavior consistently yourself and demand such behavior from your children at home.  Just like you teach your child to brush their teeth, to take a bath and to eat, you have to teach it and expect it.

·        Use appropriate body language

Your child must be taught that they are always communicating with others through body stances and movements.  Body language can convey a bigger message than words.  A simple eye roll at the same time a child says, “yes, thank you,” reduces the polite words to pure rudeness.  Arms crossed in front of the body when saying “I’m sorry,” cancels any real meaning from the words.  Children must be guided to understand how this works.  It must be pointed out to your children how body language works.

·        Turn taking

Kids need to learn how to take turns, that they don’t need to be first, and that peace between themselves and others requires some thoughtful actions.  Sharing what they have, being kind and trying to see the world through another person’s perspective is the best way to demonstrate respect, empathy, and find success in this world.

·        Personal care

Knowing that care for the body can have a major effect on their relationships with others is critical.  Living, working and playing with others requires a person to manage their own health, cleanliness, and activity.  It will make a difference in their life if they take care of their bodies.  Others will enjoy being in their presence and they will function more effectively.

·        Personal actions

Children learn early on that their actions can set the tone for successful relationships.  Eating and drinking in a way that does not make others uncomfortable, maintaining an appropriate personal space with others, and demonstrating responsibility for what you do or don’t do is critical.  Children can be taught these significant underlying and basic skills.

Tuesday, February 21, 2017

The Old and the Young

In the past children were brought up with more family guidance because family was close by and generations of families had a hand in the raising of children.  Children were influenced more by their family than their friends because of this tight family community.  Parent, grandparents, aunts and uncles all stood together with the same values, behaviors and influenced the younger members toward social and emotional competency. 
Things are different today.  People are more mobile so generations of families tend to float apart and children are less influenced by generational supports.  They grow up developing the ways of their friends and their friend’s families, babysitters, teachers, television and the internet.  Life has changed and with it we have lost the ability to mold our children.  It has become necessary to pay attention to the direct instruction and modeling of behaviors that are respectful to others and that encourage our children to contribute to each community they are part of as opposed to that community pushing it’s values on our children.  We want our children to have empathy for others, to better their world, and to grow knowing they can influence their environment in positive ways. 
Knowing how to make good choices is essential.  Children have to choose how to respond to others, to discuss an issue, to understand emotions in themselves and others and how to work, play and live in a world community where there are so many choices being presented to them each day.  If a child is given a basic set of rules or a system for making choices and knowing expectations, they will feel more confident and less anxious.
Long ago, children knew where and who to go to for confirmation, support, and encouragement.  Today children often only have their immediate family, and a circle of people who live on the periphery of their family and are less likely to have the same concern as extended family.  This compounds the need for parents to pick and choose who will influence their children.  It requires families to pay attention to those people in their children’s lives who value what they value.

Tuesday, February 14, 2017

How Do Children Learn Success?

Few parents really think their child will grow up to be a successful adult without teaching them how to attain that goal.  We send kids to school year after year to excel in academics, but what do we do to make sure they have social skills, confidence, and etiquette, which are all necessary for success?   

Very little is the answer to that question.  Somehow, we think our children will just absorb what they need to know naturally as they grow.  Waiting for that to happen is a mistake and your child will pay for that mistake.  Children need to be taught and shown manners, social skills, appropriate communication skills and they need to be guided as they build confidence, increase emotional intelligence, and people skills. 

It is important for parents to know and access training that will give their child the boost they need to fully become a successful adult and not sit by and merely hope it happens.  Unless parents make the effort to teach their own children what they need to behave appropriately in all situations, they need to seek out specific training by a professional who does these on a regular basis.  Once children have learned skills they are ready to practice those so that when they become adults well versed in behavior that emits success. 
In 1999, in The Journal of Educational Research, Vol. 92, Issue 6, Greg Brigman and others, presented the article “Teaching Children School Success Skills.”  This study pointed out the success of children in specific schools that added the direct instruction of behaviors that increase listening, attendance, and social skills.  The research showed children who got the direct instruction in these “nonacademic” skills significantly increased performance in school.

Children who learn and know how to behave will do better in school, and earn the respect and admiration of others.  They will demonstrate more leadership qualities and model effective relational skills.  Give your child that edge in their development through classes that teach such skills and don’t just wait for them to soak up those skills naturally.  Help your child take their dreams. to reality.
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